Violaine: I’ve gone through a healing journey. I’ve detoxed and experienced many things, but the hardest part for me is the mind. It's always busy, and I’ve realized that if my mind isn't in alignment with the rest of me, I’m causing my own issues.
Just understanding the problem isn't enough to resolve it.
So, how can someone like me free their mind from what’s still holding on?
I know it's within my control to some degree, but there seems to be something more needed for me to achieve full alignment in my eating, exercise, and mind. What steps should I take?
Michelle: That’s a great question. Many people come to us seeking advice on food, which can be the doorway to starting their healing journey.
Changing what we eat provides clarity and physical relief. When the physical body is in pain, it’s hard to focus on anything else. If we eat well, our body is freed up to be open to other things that might aid our healing. When brain fog lifts, and we're no longer suppressed by sugar, caffeine, alcohol, or nicotine, our minds can become clearer. Stepping away from these things, including TV and media, helps quiet the mental noise.
At this point, you face two choices. You can either go back to the comfort of not dealing with it, like “plugging back into the Matrix,” or you can press forward and fight for your happiness and freedom.
Many people reach this turning point, where they can either stay in depression and anxiety or move forward toward growth. Each path is valid, depending on what’s right for the individual.
Violaine: Can I ask, when you say "fight for it," how do you mean? Sometimes I feel that instead of fighting, I just need to let go, trusting that everything will be okay. But the hardest step for me is releasing control. I think, "If I don’t think about it, I may not calculate things properly," so I keep holding on, even though I know I need to let go.
Michelle: You’ve come to the realization that you have to make a choice. Will you continue with the system, ignoring what you know to be true, or will you run with it?
When I say "fight," I mean are you prepared to take on this journey of growth and evolution toward joy, happiness, and abundance? Or will you stay in the routine of a 9-to-5 life, content with the system? There’s no right or wrong choice, as long as you’re happy with it. It’s when you’re not at peace with your choice that your mind suffers.
Letting go doesn’t mean inaction. It means surrendering the need to control every detail while trusting that everything will be okay.
Sometimes, our programmed mind still tries to control things, even if it's in subtle ways like practicing yoga every day or making lists. It can take control even in seemingly healthy habits. Ultimate acceptance means being okay without these routines, knowing that everything will be fine even if you skip them.
Try not writing a list one day. Skip meditation if it’s something you do regularly. See how you feel. Our mind likes to control the past, present, and future, but this takes us away from the present moment. The mind judges everything based on past experiences, but if we step away from that judgment and simply be present, everything just is. It’s neither good nor bad, just part of your experience.
Looking at a flower without judgment allows you to simply be in the moment. When you let go of the need to control, you free yourself from stress and become more aligned with the present. This freedom allows you to live a more peaceful and joyful life.
Violaine: I’ve made progress from who I was at 16, very judgemental back then. I am at a different place now, but still searching for myself. Now I can step back or just observe without judment but it doesn't last all day. I have to make it a practice.
I get hooked in thinking that this pillow is not properly shaped and notice that I am thinking about it and step out from that thougtht.
Michelle: That is the key there, the observation that you just made. You don't to go and do this or that but the ego would love to do it. The exposure is when you break it down and don't give into that repetive pattern side of the ego. Take the attention away.
Children are great expamples because they have not gone through the years of programming. If a child gets injured or has something wrong and starts crying, you can divert their attention to a beautiful flower and automatically they have forgotten what has happen and what they were sad about.
The beauty of that is that the attention has been drawn away from the cause, and that what happens overtime with practice. Little things daily will unravel and get easier. Suddenly you look back 6 months and you're not the same person, you've growm, you are free.It will happen over a period of time, with practice.
Observe these things, walk the other way, take the attention off, and nothing will have a hold on you anymore.
All these experiences are here for you, and it takes a lot to step outside, but once you let go of all these things causing you stress, and taking you away from the present moment, freedom starts to happen.
Violaine: Would you say that in that moment, everything you do that day is what you were supposed to do that day, without making a list?
Michelle: Of course, because the list is just control. But it's not to say that the lists are not benefitial at some point in your journey. This is why it's not one size fits all.
Violaine: It's interesting what you say with the baby steps, as we said from the beginning, it's an individual journey, there is no magic switch. One thing leads you to another, it cannot happen independently. At least in my experience.
Looking back, I can see I have made progress, but it's funny, because looking forward I don't see the progress as clearly.
Michelle: You’re looking in the wrong place—look at right now. Right now, I see happiness, joy, and health in you. I’m grateful for the present moment, for the energy we share, and for being here together. There’s no need to look to the past or future when the present is so perfect. Having your enercy in my life at this present moment is absolutly amazing, so I am in gratitude to you for being here with me. Thank you so much.
Violaine: Thank you so much, Michelle. I’m so grateful for your knowledge and guidance. The way you approach things holistically is so insightful. It’s not just about diet; it’s about the mind, too. Everything is connected.
Michelle: All of it is so equally connected and we can do a part 2 anytime in the future if other questions come up with you or your listeners.
The main points I'd like for you to take away is that slow and steady wins the race.
There’s no overnight magic pill or transformation. The magic is in the present moment. When we focus on the now, we find the gift of presence. It’s a gift we miss when our thoughts are scattered. Slow down and enjoy the moment—this is where the joy lies.
It’s important to ask yourself, “Am I coming from my heart space, or is my mind controlling my thoughts?” Desires like wanting a particular body, car, or lifestyle come from the mind, but true joy is found in being present. Happiness doesn’t come from material things; it’s an internal state. When you live by your truth, your happiness will shine externally.
Violaine: Yes, exactly! People often think they’ll be happy once they buy something or achieve a certain goal, but true happiness comes from within.
Michelle: When we externalize our happiness, we become the most unhappy. It’s the expression of our true nature that brings real joy.
If you're worried of what people think of you, than you're unhappy, because you can't express your true nature.
It doesn't matter who's walking down the street judging you or if your family is judging you, that's their issues, not yours. It is your experience. Your internal happiness will shine from the external if you live by your truth and experience.
There is no need to jump forwards, or live by someone else dreams or live for tomorrow because tomorrow never comes. You want to experience every moments of joy.
Consistency is key when making changes, whether it’s in our thoughts, food choices, or routines. Start small—make your breakfast a smoothie every day for two weeks, and it will become a part of your lifestyle. Slowly introduce more changes and reduce things that don’t serve you.
With patience and consistency, you’ll look back and see the progress you’ve made. Where your attention goes, energy flows.
Absolutely, patience and consistency lead to transformation. It’s about focusing on what works for you and making sustainable changes over time.
Violaine: Let's keep that in mind! ... or not!
A few more discussion points, I'd to review with you. I know we said it's an individual journey but would you say there are any variations depending on age, gender, activity level that should be taken into consideration? Or even dietery needs, allegies, food intolerances we need to be aware of if moving forward with this journey?
Michelle: With regards to age, gender, activity level, it's just really; energy in = energy out.
For optimum health we want to keep stability and balance with beings that are very active, fueiling their body with regards to what type of activity they're doing.
For pregnancy , it is really important to fuel your body with all of the rich vitamins and high mineral foods so that you're not passing stress hormones through.
I've seen a lot of beings, chronically ill that once you clean up the food system as a base level then start working on the mind - body connection, the body will respond and all will fall into place.
In our community, beings are so in tune with their body needs that in regards to allergies and intolerances, once they clear out all the chemicals that have been in their body from medication and foods and maybe toxic environments, they can tolerate all the foods they couldn't before.
It's not actually the food that is causing the problem, it's the acidic environment that's internal.
The healing that takes places, once the body is in alignment, happens very quickly.
I cannot sit here and say to someone: "this is what you should eat.", because it has to be for them 100%. No one online can write you a diet plan, it's too broad.
We need to look at the root cause; is it the mind? is it emotional? is it the energy? is it the food? is it the exercice?
All of this play a huge part in how we look at health.
Just before we came on to the show, we spoke about how we can identify things within ourselves.
With my background and within my family, there was a lot of stubbornness. I had to work hard on that aspect and really fight the ego and the programming growing up. I had to look at myself and break the chains. It doesn't take a lot to change but you have to want to change it.
Violaine: I can identify 2 key words so far, one is curiosity. The person needs to be interested to start such a journey whether it is on their physical, mental health or diet. And the second is holistic, we can't isolate these elements. It is like a holistic triangle that will draw you in whether you want it or not.
Another question I wanted to get your thoughts on is supplements. There is such an industry for it, you can take a supplement for anything. It’s easy to get lost in the flood of products available. What’s your view on them? Are they necessary for health?
Michelle: My answer to that is simple—whole foods. Nothing will ever replace the benefits of real, whole foods. Our bodies are designed to process and thrive on the nutrients from fresh, unprocessed food. Supplements can be useful if someone is deficient in certain vitamins or minerals, but they’re never a substitute for a healthy, balanced diet. Your body has an incredible system in place for digesting and absorbing the nutrients it needs from food, and that’s something supplements just can’t replicate.
There’s a whole industry around supplements, and while they can be helpful in some situations, they should be taken based on actual need, not as a preventative measure for everyone. For instance, if blood work shows a deficiency in vitamin D, B12, or iron, then supplementing can help. But you don’t want to overload your liver by taking unnecessary supplements. The liver processes everything we consume, and over time, too many supplements can put stress on it, leading to other health issues.
So, what I recommend is to start with whole foods and get regular blood tests to check for any deficiencies. If there is a deficiency, then you can look at supplementing, but only for as long as it takes to get your levels back up. After that, focus on maintaining a healthy diet to keep those levels stable. Supplements should never be a long-term replacement for proper nutrition.
Violaine: Would you say there are cases where supplements are necessary, like for people who are severely deficient or have specific health conditions, but it's never on a long term basis?
Michelle: Yes, absolutely. There are situations where supplements are necessary, especially for people with chronic conditions or severe deficiencies. For instance, someone with a severe B12 deficiency might need injections to bring their levels up because oral supplements or food alone wouldn’t be enough. In those cases, supplements or even injections can be life-changing. But for the average person, focusing on a whole-food diet is the best approach.
Violaine: You don't take supplements as a preventative measure, correct? You would only if you were borderline deficient?
Michelle: One more thing on supplements, when it comes to bodybuilding or intense athletic activities, there’s often a huge push for supplements like protein powders, amino acids, and other performance enhancers. I’ve seen people rely so heavily on these products that they forget the value of real food. In my experience, even when I competed in bodybuilding, I didn’t take any supplements, and I was able to perform at my best.
The focus was on whole foods, and that made all the difference. Supplements often cause extra stress on the body, particularly on the liver, and can lead to mental fog and emotional imbalance. It’s not worth it when real food can provide everything you need.
That’s really interesting, especially since there’s such a heavy emphasis on supplements in fitness and wellness industries. So, from your perspective, it’s more about balance, patience, and consistency with food rather than relying on supplements for a quick fix.
Exactly. The quick fix mindset leads people to rely on supplements, but true health and wellness come from balance, consistency, and patience. Supplements should be used sparingly and only when necessary. If you can get your nutrition from whole foods, that’s always the best option. Your body will thank you for it in the long run.
Violaine: Yes because it is your whole lifestyle, you really embodded the two because I know it is very important to you, but you didn't pressure yourself and were able to combine lifestyle and passion.
Michelle: Supplementation is unnecessary to me and what it does is causes extra stress on the body.
Violaine: There is more digging I need to do on supplements, but just to share a little story from college; one of my biologiy teacher said,; assuming you have a balanced diet, if you take a supplement, you just are going to pee them out.
Of course people need to be aware of there deficiencies and do the blood work.
Michelle: It's simple but of course with what we see online, it get confusing.
Violaine: I think what you’ve shared is really valuable because it emphasizes a more natural, sustainable approach to health. For those who are curious, though, how do you determine if they need supplements or if their diet is enough?
It always starts with blood work. You need to understand where your body stands nutritionally. A yearly checkup for vitamins and minerals is a good practice for anyone. If you discover a deficiency, that’s when you can consider supplements. But I always advise starting with food first. Look at what you’re eating and see if you can boost your levels naturally through your diet. Only when food isn’t enough do we turn to supplements.
For example, if someone is borderline deficient in vitamin D, they can increase their exposure to sunlight and add more vitamin D-rich foods like fatty fish or fortified products. If that’s not enough, then a short-term supplement might be necessary. But again, it’s about balance and not overloading the system.
So, in essence, it’s about using supplements as a tool for correction, not as a regular part of daily health management. You’re recommending that people really understand their bodies before turning to supplements and make changes where possible through diet and lifestyle.
I think it’s important to stress that each person’s journey is unique. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach. Some people may need supplements due to their lifestyle or location (like those in areas with little sun needing vitamin D), but the key is to always use them mindfully and temporarily. The long-term goal is always to rely on whole, natural foods to support overall health.
Violaine: I love how you emphasize the importance of a holistic approach—mind, body, and spirit all connected. Could you share a success story from your community that highlights the impact of this approach on someone with a chronic condition?
Absolutely. And everyone can refer to our six weeks transformation programs on our social media. Lot's of videos and testimotials on our youtube channel.
One powerful example is from Josh’s father. He had been insulin-dependent for years due to type 1 diabetes. His life revolved around managing his blood sugar, and it became overwhelming. We offered him our holistic approach, focusing on whole foods, detoxing, and mindfulness practices. Within eight weeks, he went from being completely dependent on insulin to being free from it. His doctors were shocked and couldn’t understand how such a transformation could happen. But it did, and it all came down to changing his diet and lifestyle in a holistic way. His body healed itself once it was given the right tools.
The medical profession is very needed for those who are not ready to embark on this journey and I am grateful for them being there.
Personally, if I had a choice and could heal my body, I would go that route. Younger I had bad chronic sinus infection, was put on antibiotics, ruined my gut health.
I started to eliminate processed foods and got about 60% better, was able to breathe normally, function on my job and sleep. I then took it a little bit further, eliminating meat and dairy and it got better and better!
It took about 3 to 4 years of trial and errors..
The moment I embarked on that journey, I felt an element of freedom.
Diabetes is one of the quickest to heal because it is all dietery choices.
Testimonials on that are available on our website and social media. Again, the six week transformation is really beneficial for a one to one approach and individualized of the holistic package.
We’ve worked with people who had chronic illnesses, autoimmune diseases, and even mental health struggles, and they’ve experienced significant healing through this approach. It’s not just about diet, though—mindset, emotional healing, and lifestyle changes all play a part. Once everything is in alignment, the body has an incredible ability to heal itself.
Violaine: Can it be done remote?
Michelle: Yes, we have a lot of people form the US. We do it via Zoom, chats and private one on one, as well as the Q&As that we do bi-weekly.
Violaine: That’s so inspiring. Thank you for sharing that, Michelle. I’m sure many people listening will feel encouraged to take a more holistic approach to their health. How can people connect with you and learn more about your work?
Michelle: Thank you! People can reach out to us through our website, XFUnity.com, or follow us on Instagram at @XFamilyUnity.
We also have a YouTube channel called Josh X where we share videos of our community members’ healing journeys and other helpful content.
We offer one-on-one consultations and six-week transformation programs to help people get started on their own journey toward holistic health.
Violaine: That’s fantastic. Thank you again, Michelle. I think there’s so much value in what you’ve shared, and I know people will take away a lot from this conversation.
Michelle: Thank you for having me. It’s been a pleasure, and I look forward to continuing the conversation in the future!
Important links to reach out to Michelle:
Website: xfamunity.com
Instagram: @xfamilyunity
YouTube: Josh X
email address for the transformation: the6weektransformation@gmail.com
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